I penned this reflection originally for a publication of Transforming Sydney. Every family experiences death at some time. More inevitable than taxes and the only thing apart from our births that we all genuinely have in common.There's no blueprint for death; it is as individual as each of us. Having said that, if we were to receive bad news that a friend had been diagnosed with a particular terminal illness, many of us would be able to bring to mind some thought of what that might mean for our sick friend. Ill-informed or otherwise, it's simply human nature.